Racism of interracial dating
” That’s the first thing many people ask me when they hear that I am dating someone white.Most of those asking were other Asian girls, who struggle with their parental preferences on their dating life.Asian American girls often hear about what it means to date white to our Asian American peers (male and female) on blogs, but less about our parents.Asian parents often are extremely sensitive to their children’s dating lives and many would rather their children date someone of their ethnicity.
And family is such an important part of Asian culture. If I were dating someone Chinese, how my parents and how his parents would act would be mutually understood.There are standard customs and beliefs for the Chinese that don’t align with their American counterparts.My parents grew up in a world where girls “left” the family for someone else’s family.The Chinese came to traditionally view daughters as less valuable because the girls would leave them, often to a different village altogether.Even though Chinese American parents don’t expect for their daughters to be moving into her husband’s parent’s household, they still expect their daughter to spend more time pleasing and taking care of her new set of parents.
There’s a bit of a rift between cultures, and it’s not always so easy to overcome.